Asian Standards of Beauty: How 3 Southeast Asian Women Are Redefining Beauty
I went into this mini-project with no expectations, heck, if I saw some random woman posting about this, I would think she is crazy and there is no way on earth I would share such a video. However, after a few days, I started getting comments on my posts. I was so shocked (and ecstatic) that it’s actually happening, I remember doing a little dance in my kitchen. I decided to reach out to each of the women, thanking them, and get to know them deeper. After telling a friend about how incredible the stories were, she suggested turning them into blogs and sharing them with the world, so here we are today.
One of the first people who commented on my post was Rosie. Rosie grew up in a Cambodian household in America and has 7 other siblings. She went through primary and high school fitting into what is considered the ‘Asian standards of beauty’. Skinny and head full of shiny, straight hair. She recalls waking up one day in her first year of University when everything changed. Her hair turned curly overnight and with that she started to gain weight.
Being raised by a single mother, Rosie highly values her mum’s opinions about her and her looks. Rosie told me that she remembers one day when her mum and her were out, they saw a lady with curly hair too, but her curls were larger, more lushish. Her mum commented on how beautiful the lady’s curls were right in front of Rosie, when for years, she tried every measure to straighten Rosie’s hair and wouldn’t let her wear clothes that accentuated her curviness. I, too was raised by a single mother for the most part of my life, so this was SO RELATABLE.
Rosie remembered feeling so hurt by it at the time but she found the courage to not let those comments get the best of her. She found her inner strength to push past those comments and found her own inner beauty. Rosie currently runs her own marketing agency, Rosie Chuong Content Services, and has recently founded API Curls, a multicultural digital platform focused on transforming outdated narratives about beauty diversity and empowering women in Asian and Pacific Islander communities to embrace their natural hair patterns and textures. You can check out all the amazing work she is involved with here www.rosiechuong.com.
The topic of whether Rosie’s life would have been completely different if she had grown up in Cambodia, rather than America, came up halfway through our conversation and the answer was a definite yes. Growing up in a western environment allowed Rosie to make friends from different cultural backgrounds, who looked completely different from one another. It showed her that beauty can mean different things to different people and that she is beautiful in her own ways. It was heartrending for the both of us to imagine what it could have been like being so ‘different’ in a community where there were no other standards. As we discussed the topic further, I started developing a sunken feeling in my stomach. There are plenty of women who are indeed living in these communities that feel like they don’t fit in, that they are not beautiful.

Lala got in touch with me through Rosie’s video post on Instagram. We hit it off from the moment we started talking. She described her experiences in such detail and I could read her story through her eyes.
Her self- image was torn into pieces from the constant disapproval of those around her, but her love for learning languages saved her. It exposed her to new friends around the world, she met her now-husband and it allowed her to see the world from completely different perspectives. Through broadening her horizon, just like Rosie, she understood that beauty is represented differently across the globe and she too, is beautiful.

Lala is not alone in trying to redefine the beauty standards of her surrounding community. Meira, who also grew up in Indonesia, was bullied by both her friends and teachers in school because of her curly hair and body shape. Meira felt so ashamed, she didn’t want to be seen and felt she looked ‘wrong’ to everyone. My heart sank so deep when I heard those words and I tried so damn hard to hold back my tears.
However, just like Rosie and Lala, Meira started her journey of self-love. She began to embrace her curly hair and started to get fit, not for anyone else, but for herself. She is a strong believer that if you don’t love yourself, no one will love you.
To me, they are what true beauty stands for. I think there are parts of other people that everyone wants to have. Take me for instance, I wish to not have to curl my hair every time I go somewhere fancy and just have gorgeous natural curls! It takes true courage for these women to not only love themselves for who they are but the fact that they pushed through the constant negative comments, came out the other end stronger and wanting to share their story and inspire those around them, is in itself beautiful.
We have the power to define what we consider beautiful, so why not use our influence to redefine what beauty stands for?
This is exactly what Soy & Spice Lingerie symbolises. To love yourself for who you are, to have the confidence in trying things outside of your comfort zone, and to have the courage in pushing your boundaries. To join our growing community today and receive our latest catalogue, sign up at www.soyandspice.com.
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About the Author: Mary Liu
Mary, the Founder of Soy & Spice Lingerie loves every moment of her waking hours spent on developing the lingerie line.
She started her entrepreneurial journey at the age of 19 and has spent the past 10 years of her career in the Australian startup ecosystem.
With a love for lingerie and a deep passion in advocating for women in leadership and entrepreneurship, Mary hopes to inspire others through her own journey, and for Soy & Spice to give every woman that it comes across the confidence to try something that is outside of their comfort zone and to love themselves in the process.
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